Category: The Noble Second Wife™

The REAL Reason to JUST BE YOU!

Coping with rejection

One day, many years ago, God took up knitting. And what He knitted was… you. “For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made…” Psalm 139:13-14  You are the only you God ever created. He literally broke the mold after He […]
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Noble Second Wife: A new approach to forgiveness

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A Noble Second Wife is a calling… and not an easy one, by any means. We are the Navy Seals of Christian marriage, at times facing with grace the crazy unfairness of scorn, disrespect, or even rejection. On our own, our gut instinct would be to harden our hearts. But God tells us there is […]
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Are you in a marriage? Or an experiment?

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Is your marriage truly a marriage? Or is it an experiment? Without substantial evidence of getting it right, will you give up? Settle that question and carve the answer into marble. Diamonds may be forever, but many first, and sadly, even second marriages end needlessly in divorce. Make certain yours is not one of them.  Why not […]
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Noble Second Wife: Your presence is a gift!

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“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord.” —Proverbs 18:22 How does it feel to know your very presence is an expression of God’s favor to your husband? The Matthew Henry Bible commentary says of this passage that your husband, having found you, “has found a good thing, […]
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Noble Second Wife: A trespasser you are not…

A trespasser you are not. Not in your home and not in your second family. Your presence is licensed by the state and counted carefully by the IRS. Legally, officially, and spiritually, whether you — or they — like it or not, you now belong to your second family. Your official family membership was not […]
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Noble Second Wife: Do you ever feel judged?

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Do you ever feel judged, condemned, or misunderstood because you are a Christian second wife? There may be some around you who just don’t believe you and your husband should be given a chance to try again, to love again, to build a life again. These otherwise good people are bound up in human perfectionism. […]
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Are you a Noble Second Wife™?

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When I became a second wife, I was certain of just two things: I loved my husband. And I loved God. But I was uncertain and unprepared, spiritually and emotionally, for the “second-wife” identity — an identity misunderstood by pretty much everybody. As far as I could tell, there existed only one accepted “brand” of second […]
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